Don’t Hide the Hurt

In August of 2020, 90 people were seen at the Advocacy and Resource Center in Sheridan.  Forty-five of the visits were due to domestic violence.  Yvonne Swanson is the Executive Director at the center who promotes a safe community in order to have healthy families here.  October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month.  A march for everyone took place on Saturday morning, October 10^th, from U.S. Bank through downtown Sheridan to Whitney Plaza.  It was the fifteenth march to take a community stance to open people’s minds and hearts to see that everyone is affected by violence.  Participants of all ages showed that people can a stand for what they believe in.

Spouses, significant others, and children might be thought of first as the victims of violence.  For example, a woman in Sheridan was murdered by her spouse in front of her children.  Other family members are also affected by the shocking events, friends and co-workers as well.  Kathleen Wood, a volunteer advocate said there are hidden signs.  She noticed a co-worker was always wearing long sleeved blouses, even on hot summer days.  It took some time, but Ms. Wood was able to reach out and discovered that this co-worker was trying to hide the bruises on her arms.  Ms. Wood said, “We need to pay more attention.”  Victims of violence and abuse may not want to admit that this is happening to them and they may be embarrassed.

Board member, Dale Brown, said that the times when people in dire need contact the Advocacy and Resource Center may not be convenient.  The calls usually come in the middle of the night, and yes, there are many calls.  Therefore volunteers are ready to help at all times.  Volunteer advocate, Jody Warnke said, “It’s tough, but rewarding, too.”  A resounding, “Thank you” was given to Teri Markham as she received the Advocacy in Action award for her dedicated hard work as a volunteer and ally for safe homes.  As she received her award, she exclaimed, “Take this community and make it a safe place to be!”

Ted Lapis also walked to show his concern for Wyoming residents who are harmed daily.  He has seen that the numbers have greatly increased during the Covid-19 pandemic.  He noted that people are isolating themselves and are much more stressed than usual.  This can lead to extreme tension in a household resulting in violence caused by family members to loved ones.

There are ways for community members to help.  Victims of violence may leave their homes so quickly that they cannot take anything with them.  They may suddenly need a safe haven, a place to stay, and a meal.  They may also need hygiene products.  Ms. Wood suggested that employers have pamphlets about what domestic violence is and resources in the break room. 

“Our work is still not done here,” said Ms. Swanson.  She said everyone can be powerful. The Advocacy and Resource Center promotes, “Hands are not for hitting”.  Remember that hands are made for helping.